Food Stain Removal Guide

Quick tip from a busy mum.

Happen if your kiddos spill ketchup or soy sauce on their pretty shirts, never go bleach straight away - it will turn red and the stain will stick permanently while damaging the fabric and fading the colour. Go to the kitchen, smear a few drops of liquid dishwasher to it and rub under running water. Voila! Food stains are supposed to be washed with dishwasher pronto. New stain will be easier to wash.


Bah!

Pity Story

sad story just happen, a friend's brother is being chased around by thugs because he owed them just over 9K. what will happen to our world, I can see the end of it so clearly now. cops are just not helping, if it is reported the gangs will find out, but how? if not the insider inside the department itselves informing the ghouls. tsk....9K and the price of soul, maybe will be up on e-Bay soon. I pray for his safety.

SET THE TABLE, GET THE BALL ROLLING

Hi...

It's been tiring the whole week, we had thanksgiving prayer for my bro in-law who recently got promoted and transferred to Labuan Shell starting tomorrow! Man....I did deep-frying the whole day I even fried my thumb! Anyway back to the topic, what is it all about? Friend of mine sort of hit the rock with his wife over what I think is inane issue. So this post goes out to you D. Ladies and gentlemen can all benefit from this.

Well, most of us married couples don't talk much about issues because issues lead to argument and that is ugly. Be it money, time management, kids, hygiene or anything many couples simply avoid bringing up issues that can provoke disagreement. However by doing so, you are actually doing something called 'bottle-necking' and the burst is going to be messy.

I argue a lot with MrVai. I love him so much but still I hit on that red button every time I feel that he needs some correction and so does he. I never allow myself to go to sleep with unsolved issues. God gave you mouth and that voice so that you can speak for yourself. Women always act their way through and men hate that. Be realistic he can't read your mind! Just be careful on how are you going to bring it up.

Myself I prefer starting while I'm washing the dishes. Just an example for you because I think during that time I'll have my attention or anger channeled to the water, bubbles and plates. I'd be less critical and try not to be cynical. Cynical is what most men despise. It doesn't help solving anything but it fans on the anger. Focus on what wrong he did, not him as a person so be wise to say "I don't think gambling is good for our household economy" instead of "You gamble wayyyy to much we're close to broke". Address the issue spot-on as possible so avoid beating around the bush.

Once he gives you that attention, calm down and bring it to the table. Give him your points clearly and orderly so he can follow what you say. Tell him why you think he needs to change his certain way and how it affects you and your relationship with him. When you're done, let him talk and share his opinion. He might not agree completely with you but be kind to tolerate too. No man change overnight. Talk more on how to adjust and rearrange everything. While doing so don't be hesitant to apologise even if it's not your fault. It works and will gain you respect, I know because I do that.

So don't be afraid to voice out your thoughts, doubts, concern or fear. Bring it up - and find a solution. Be rational and argue in a civilised manner, I don't want some flying saucers over my head. It's OK to be angry but there's always a way for everyone to be happy winning and losing at the same time.

Till then, bye.....muah!!!

Feel Like Crying For No Reason?

A friend e-mailed to me, a real tear jerker. I just cry, my mom is now in heaven and I can really understand the kid. Let's cry together. sobs~


4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.

There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.

With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bedsheet and blanket!

Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:

"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles.. One is for you and the other is for me. However, I was
afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."

At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.

A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten.. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.

However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did
not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the reason for his absence as he has no mummy.....

Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to himself and stayed in his room to practise his writing, which I am sure, would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'cos he makes me proud too!

Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the christmas spirit is in every passer-by...Christmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, ' I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.

His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy.

My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once..."

After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to say.....

I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldnt help opening the letter before they turn to ash.

And one of the letters broke my heart....

Dear Mummy,

I miss you so much! Today, there was a ‘Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldnt help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room.. I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think.. But Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why havent you appear?


After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....


For the females with children:
Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem. Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of your little precious.


For the married men:
Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients.
Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society, no one is indispensable. Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones.


For those singles out there:
Beauty lies in loving yourself first. With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters more than your well being.

BILA MUDA & BERPANGKAT

Ohai again... How's your week going so far? It's Friday and officially almost a week since my last entry. Maaf ye, very unmotivated right now, walau penuh dengan idea tapi malas nya hanya THE ONE saja yang tahu. However short one today, something to share selepas insiden FB itu hari. Yang membaca sila ambik sebagai pengajaran dan peringatan. Aku terasa sebab bapak aku orang tua GAMEN yang tak berapa nak berpangkat sangat, chekgu je, takde degree pon, dah pencen pon...

Sebelum aku mencarut, aku mintak maaf dulu, entry ini aku tuju-tuju kat orang yang 'koma' saja. Yang ikhlas nak berkhidmat untuk negara macam Ahmoi sakit tu susah payah ajar anak-anak sengal kelas peralihan tak reti BM aku memang salut. Yang mana elok-elok dah jadi engineer tapi nak kerja GAMEN sebab memang itu niat dia nak berkhidmat untuk negara, baguslah. Yang berkhidmat di spetal macam MA Placebo tu pun aku sanjung, korang memang fabeles. Senang cakap kalau makan cili baru la rasa HOT & SPICY kan? Aku awal-awal buat scene pagi raya duduk mintak hampun kat korang yang tak bersalah. ' I mintak maaf, I tak sengaja'.

Generasi baru termasuk kita yang baby boomers ni memang bertuah, peluang sambung belajar sentiasa dan semakin terbuka luas. Nak melangkah ke LONDON dah tak impossipazel dah, nak lagi kalau ada seguni duit for winter bonfire. Sebab nak masuk UiTM sekarang ni memang peluang yang terbuka dan tak perlu ada IQ count 145 segala. Kolej swasta pun sekarang ini pun ada PTPTN bukan macam dulu nak kena biasiswa FAther-MA@mother. Pendek kata tak mustahil dah untuk individu itu memiliki segulung kertas yang entah sapa beri nama ijazah tu. Kertas yang kalau tak print apa-apa tu sama saja nilainya dengan kertas bungkus nasi lemak 50sen tu. Tinggal nak taknak je. Kalau taknak sambung belajar pun mungkin ada sebabnya, bukan sebab dia bodoh tolol with nano count of knowledge. Tak semua orang suka nak belajar sampai tua.

So kalau kamu ada degree sosiologi atau sains sosial atau lain-lain yang sebenarnya tak tau nak guna kat mana lepas tu mintak kerja GAMEN sebab takde firma di luar sana yang hengen hambek hengkau kerja, tak payah bangga tak bertempat kamu tu berpangkat. Bukan nak menghina ya, sebenarnya sikit sangat la degree holder yang 'ikhlas' jadi GAMENizer ni, sebab mostly apply kerja tu sebab degree tak laku. Kalau dah 2 tahun grad dan tak dapat kerja lagi, aku kasi kau gunting handbag COACH kesayangan aku tu, memang akan apply kerja GAMEN.

Dan lazimnya GAMEN akan kasi kau pangkat 'PENGUASA' ke atas lah, ikut ranking dalam jabatan kamu tu. Gred 41 biasa la tu. Tapi bila dah masuk kerja kau kena ingat, kau tu JUNIOR jugak. Kalau tak soal tatakerja, kau mentah jugak soal etika kerja. So keep yourself open to advices even from the seniors of staffs. Tak kisah la dia 11, 12, 17, 22 ke 26 tapi dia still a senior. Kalau taknak respect pangkat dia, respect UMUR dia. Dan jangan salahkan orang menegur kalau kamu memang salah. Especially kalau jabatan kamu tu ada uniform, kamu tu bawa bulan, bintang dan crown di bahu. Wajarlah kalau yang tua dan berpengalaman menegur kamu bila attitude tak match dengan status kamu sebagai pegawai kanan. Ini tak, status FB jugak kamu siarkan. Yang kamu pegi ganyang orang segala gred tu apahal. Lepas tu sedap je mulut cakap orang 'masa kecik suruh belajar tak mau'. Habis tu kalau semua jadi bos sapa nak jadi kuli?

Aku bukan apa bila tak puas hati ni, tak semua orang yang berkelayakan tu bertuah apply sesuatu jawatan dan dapat pangkat yang selayaknya dengan qualification. Kadang-kadang yang ada diploma pun terpaksa guna scale SPM je mintak kerja, dah itu je jawatan yang bukak. Ada jugak yang berdegree, masters, cuma tak belajar untuk naik pangkat. Tapi kalau kau berpangkat, kau tak payah la pegi hina orang bawahan kau. Konon yang makan cili terasa pedas, memanglah... Tak semua orang bertuah dapat jadi bos umur muda macam kau. Bersyukur sudahlah, jangan hina pulak orang yang tak berapa nak bertuah. What more kalau orang tua yang kau carut-carut tu, dia macam mak bapak kau la sacrifice nak hantar anak-anak dia yang baya-baya kau tu sambung belajar tinggi-tinggi sampai atas gunung. Tak kisah la dia takde degree, tapi kau tau ke anak dia nanti jadi ape? Doktornya, engineernya, saintisnya? Ntah2 degree diorang lagi best dari degree kau.

Bagi aku kita sekarang ni bertuah, we're the fortunate young and successful generation. Tapi pada masa yang sama kita ada adab sopan budaya bangsa, yang tua dihormati itu pasti. Jangan bangga sangat dengan gred BOS kamu, sebab di luar nanti kamu akan bekerja dengan public, staff kamu yang hadap dengan public. Kalau diorang tak beri kerjasama, boleh jalan ke kerja. Still you owe it to the kuli. Ingat selalu, to be respected you have to respect others firsts. And in almost any situation, you EARN respect. I know comment section Dukun mungkin akan berbunyi 'The Boss Is Never Wrong' tapi to me 'Nobody Is Always Right'.

'Elak Cerai Berai Terbarai'

4 hari...menderita sakit rindu, ubatnya pun lama lagi nak pulang. :(

Ohai Sunday people, don't you have any better thing to do on this lovely day instead of reading my piece of shoot? hehe...It's OK I understand buggers like you, I'm writing my entry this SUNDAY , get what I mean? OK--OK--mari cakap BM. Cakap BMS nanti Uncle Lee tak faham. Englosh pon korang malas nak baca, pastu taknak komeng, pastu aku rasa post aku tak best, pastu start random post cerita pasal hari nak hujan dan baju aku basah kena tumpah milo. Walhal blog ini sepatutnya rasa macam diary, korang tak baca pun takpa no'.

Dah...dah... Hari ini aku nak beri korang tips 'Elak Cerai Berai Terbarai' kat korang, actually boleh apply to kekasih jugak. Tips ini penting sebab kalau masa gaduh tu senang-senang taik ayam je nak maki hamun kekasih kita ye. Walaupun tahu hati pasangan kita tu macam bunga lalang, kalau ditiup akan melayang jauh-jauh susah nak tangkap. Silap haribulan hinggap kat taman lain. Masa tu nak kata apa? Marah kita ni macam angin, kalau membadai adalah korbannya. Wah...bermadah wei! Tapi kalau memang jodoh tak ada tak apalah...asal dah mencuba mempertahankan mahligai semi-D yang kita bina bersama. Cari jelah banglo baru.


Baiklah ; macam biasa mak hayam mulakan lesson hari ini dengan MARAH itu sendiri. Dengar pun buat kita sakit hati kan? Best ke marah-marah? Apa hasilnya? To me cuma sakit hati sahaja, and like wise people said, never sleep with anger. Bangun pagi muka akan berkerut macam umur 70 tahun. Nasihat ini khususnya penting untuk pasangan yang sudah berkahwin. Sebolehnya selesaikan masalah kamu, kecil atau besar sebelum kamu tidur.


OK MARAH ; ketika ini darah akan menyerbu otak kita, jantung akan berdegup macam nak gila, muka jadi panas, otak jadi tak waras, mulut akan mencarut, and oops! tangan jadi ringan. By that time it's almost too late. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, kalau perempuan merajuk susah nak pujuk. Kalau lelaki merajuk? Adeh...mintak simpang malaikat 44. Tak mahu la cinta terputus di tengah jalan, sesat di simpang, sangkut dalam jam, semput di tangga, terkunci dalam lift. Btw kenapa ye marriage dipanggil rumah tangga? ehehe...


PERTAMA : Masa tengah naik hantu, seeloknya jauhkan diri masing-masing sekejap. Sekejap ye anak-anak bukan lama-lama. Kalau gaduh-gaduh manja tu amik la masa sejam dua bermain di verandah rumah, menyanyi dalam kereta, pegi minum gerai mamak. Tapi kalau kes besar sampai nak ke pejabat kadi tu, amik masa seminggu bercuti SENDIRIAN. Beri ruang untuk hati kita rindu semula. Untuk 2 orang yang sedang marah berada dalam radius yang sama samalah seperti berdiri tengah highway. Disaster!

KEDUA : Ingat semula apa yang mengikat kalian berdua. Saat-saat indah dahulu tu cuba ingat balik, walaupun sidia dah mungkin berubah, kaji semula kenapa dia berubah. Mungkin kita pun menyumbang kepada situasi hodoh yang berlaku.

KETIGA : Kaji semula apa yang sebenarnya kamu marahkan. Mungkin masalah sebenar adalah KITA sendiri. Buang ego jauh-jauh sewaktu muhasabah diri ye? Ego tu buat kita buta dan enggan mengaku salah.

KEEMPAT : Bincang. Kan senang kalau dapat berbincang dengan kepala yang ringan dan sejuk. Kalau boleh minta maaflah walaupun bukan kamu yang mulakan. Cari dan buka jalan perdamaian, somebody have to start somewhere. At least agree to disagree is a meeting point. Dan kalau memang adalah kesilapan kamu, make it a point to never do it again.

KELIMA : Berbaik semula, bermula dengan kaunseling. Bila dah OK tu, dating lagi lah. Pupuk semula bunga cinta kamu yang dah layu kena panas gurun tu. Re-ignite the Fire, Fan the Flame. Jangan malu untuk bercinta lagi kerana kita berubah dengan usia, tidak bermakna kita diam sebumbung tidur sekatil bergolek sama-sama kita sudah kenal pasangan kita sepenuhnya. Sentiasa bercakap, kenalkan diri kamu kepada pasangan, sidia tu bukannya psikik dapat baca hati kamu.

KEENAM : Gembirakan dirimu, bila kamu gembira hubungan dengan pasangan kamu juga pasti berjalan dengan baik. Jangan paksa diri kamu suka apa yang sidia suka. Have some ME time, be with your own friends. Do what you like. Just watch your limit, make sure you don't hurt or neglect your partner along the way.


Ha...anak-anak hayam semua. Itulah dia nasihat mak kali ini ye. Bukan apa kebelakangan ini suka sangat buat entry tips dan petua, saja berkongsi pengetahuan kaunseling yang sedikit di dada mak ni. Dada mak ni kembang semangkuk jer. ehek! Mak kalau boleh nak sambung belajar psikologi, lama lagi la. Saja untuk pengetahuan sendiri. Mak takla sempurna segala segi, ada jugak cubaan dan dugaan, but it all amount to a bittersweet relationship I'd like to cherish forever.

So u'ols, ketahuilah, tak semua cinta itu akan berakhir bahagia dan bahagia pun kalau tak dijaga berakhir juga. Dan tak cukup kalau sebelah pihak sahaja menjaga hati, it takes two to tango, salsa, cha-cha. Kalau nak sorang-sorang sila belajar poco-poco yer? Bah, jaga dirimu disana!

CINTA ANUGERAH TERINDAH

Kasihan paduhal Ahmoi sakit, mun ndak sik ku gago menggagah dirik speku nya ada sesi dating-mating ngan Mr bin Abdullah. Hehe...bukan aku sorang nak? Kawan-kawan lain pun asa ku speku juak. Rupa-rupanya sakit ngembak ngail. Semoga cepat sembuh k? Olalala...kesian...

Maka dengan itu kubukak cerita bahawa aku sakit juak. Sik la sakit teruk sampey sik larat oh, choi!!! Sik sihat ala-ala manja jak gitu, atchium-atchium jak. Last Sunday bangun tido alu start berkasik, geruk asa skres, maka start la asa mah nyawa, sikda selera makan kak ya sik bertenaga. Tapi ya bukan la isi kandungan buku teks k? Tajuk sebenar hari ini ialah kaitan kasih-sayang dengan kesihatan.

Y'all tauk kan, laki ku sikda di sisi kinek, paling menyesakkan recent update madah nya tambah period kerja to 120-150 days approx. Alu semput dada I.

Ok, back to our topic, berdasarkan kajian, orang yang berpasangan lebih sihat berbanding orang single. Maksudnya, paras hormon happy a.k.a endorfin dalam badan kita sentiasa terhasil akibat ransangan rasa bahagia dari daily gestures like hugging, touching, etc...yang aku malu mok tulis sini. Kajian sentiasa membuktikan individu yang gembira adalah lebih terhindar dari jangkitan bakteria atau virus-virus yang merbahaya, ke berbahaya, ada cikgu BM sik mok correct aku?
Kajian Kes : Mr Vai jauh, sikda orang sayang me everyday, sikda orang make proper breakfast sebelum turun kerja sebab bininya gago conteng muka, sikda orang berik hug lamak-lamak just to say it's OK when problems come up. Sebab yalah aku kenak selesema, sore throat and might be cold fever hanya setelah Mr Vai e-mailed me about his extended working days.


Passionate kisses are good for your oral health!It’s not all doom and gloom. Research into passionate kissing has uncovered many valuable health benefits. Healthier mouth, saliva contains substances that fight bacteria, viruses and fungi. Deep kissing increases the flow of saliva, which helps to keep the mouth, teeth and gums healthy.
Kajian Kes : Sikkan aku mok cium tokey mi kolok ya... isk...


Love is always good for your heart. When with your loved ones your blood pressure goes down, allowing better reasoning and keeping anger at bay. Good blood pressure means good heart condition.
Kajian Kes : Bila sang Arjuna jauh di mata, jiwa mala jak datang moha. Asa emosi lalu mok ngansa' jak nyawa. Hilang pen pun emosi, sungguh tidak munasabah. Selalu macam tok boleh sakit jantung seh.

Love makes you put more regard on your health status. You will want to be around longer so you put effort in securing good health.
Kajian Kes : Kenak aku peratikan, laki aku ya makin Tall, Dark and Gendut jak oh... Ok at least rasa sayang antara kami 2 dah memotivasikan nya eksesais, start jogging yang lamak sik diamal, makan oat untuk kurangkan kolestrol dan berusaha berhenti merokok.


Love makes you look good. Actually, cinta tok molah kita 'feel' good. Secara tak langsung akan membuatkan kita glow. Seri kata orang, cuba nanga muka bakal pengantin, kacak sik?
Kajian Kes : Sikboh molah kajian, I nang sentiasa Hot Gojes and Fabeles. hehe...hik-hik..


Bagaimana Untuk Memupuk Kasih Sayang
SENTIASA BERKOMUNIKASI
-walau jauh travelling, kita ada sms, video call, e-mail, so apa cara sekalipun sentiasa lah cari jalan untuk berkomunikasi. Kalau berdekatan eloklah diamalkan meluangkan masa bercakap berdua hati ke hati. Quality time kata orang.

SENTIASA COMPLIMENT EACH OTHER
-jangan kedekut pujian, kalau masa bergerek selalu memuji, dah kawen tu teruskan lah... Apa salahnya puji, 'nyaman laksa tok yang...kalah laksa di kedey' ndak ka kembang dada bini mendengarnya?

CIPTA HOBI TERSENDIRI
-unik untuk anda berdua, suka pangku-memangku kah, cari kutu laki kah, cat kuku bini kah, manicure/pedicure laki kah, something intimate, untuk men'sweet'kan perhubungan.

TERIMA KEKURANGAN PASANGAN
-jangan kelebihan ajak. sayangi pasangan kita sepenuhnya.

CIPTA HUBUNGAN HARMONI DENGAN KELUARGA SIDIA
-percayalah, semua yang sudah berkahwin akan mengakui hakikat tok. keluarga pasangan kita menyumbang kepada keharmonian hubungan kita laki-bini.


Sekian tips-tips untuk hari ini, nyawa agik malas tok mok menghurai, cintai dirimu sayangi cintamu.

WHEN I FORGOT MY AGE

ini entry amnesia

There are times when I have to stop and recall my year of birth and start counting my age at present year. Lame, but I just don't feel myself worrying about my age. I find it funny that I, a woman have---not the same worries many other woman does.

I think it's fine to eventually have a few creases at certain age. Who doesn't age? But I think running for age-defying serum at 18 y.o is silly. Spending thousands on these products also, is silly. If you can afford it, it's fine. But not for those who have to borrow for cosmetic surgery. Practice good lifestyle, healthy food, work out regularly, laugh and smile a lot can do you good in the long run. Worrying makes you age faster, so try not no worry too much for it doesn't solve the problem.

It is OK to gain few kilos because it means you had enjoyed good food. Never starve yourself, have food. But just watch it, don't get FAT.

Dress your age is so...passe. Wear your dress not the other way round. If your dress from your 20's still look good on your 30's or 40's body, so be it-WEAR IT!

Stay in love, you'l forget your age.

Why this post today? hehe...bunyik macam Ahmoi yerk... Because I saw these. When I said forget your age I didn't mean you can intentionally make yourself look OLD.

Duffy is 26

Amy Winehouse is 26

Miley Cyrus is 17!!!

Freakin' Me out!

sheesh----->keep yourself youthful, feel young at heart.

LOVE ME LOVE ME NOT

Dear BDiary

It’s been long since I last wrote down my two cents in here. So far I was caught-up in an emotional turbulance which disable my rational thinking and drown my happy self. Nobody said it’s going to be easy, life is not easy, relationship is not easy, and marriage CERTAINLY is not easy. Forgive me Bdiary, it was hard for me to put down my feelings in words. But now I think the time comes for me to share with you something about myself, my opinion on relationship and how far would you go for it.

I am easy to read, like an open book with illustrations. I am not good at hiding my feelings, so transparent that if I like/love somebody it shows and if I hate certain thing/person it shows even more. My action always betray my conscience, when I wanted to appear angry I’d cry, and it’s not easy to appear icy when all you want is to communicate and clear the air. When all effort to veil my feeling failed, I’d still end up crying. My heart is so fragile my tears are like windscreen shower. When I see an old lady alone at coffee shop I can’t help but think that she’s alone in life then I’d feel sad. I saw and old man at bus stop and can’t help myself thinking his children left him. And now there’s abandoned baby everywhere, my tear went auto pilot. When I’m emotional I find my way into this blog, and let you buggers read my mind. Hmmm…

If there’s anything that my heart refuse to give in easily it will be forgiveness. I don’t forgive easily, I don’t forget easily, maybe not a good quality but it keeps me from hurting myself when betrayal repeats itself. But I don’t revenge, it is not my style. Mr Vai doesn’t appologize with ease, it is always me who embrace humility to make up after each fight. When we fight he tends to space himself from me [I hate being alien to him] in order to avoid further damage from painful words we throw at each other. Truth is always painful so we deny it so often it hurts the other party. The act of humility is noble, at least to me. When you are in a relationship WORTH SAVING, it is important to know when to swallow your ego. A man will always be man, they have an ego size bigger than their brain and penis combined its true. So I always appologize although I know I wasn’t at fault. But then again after I appologize, he’ll usually realize how much I love him that I’m willing to always give in to him. And I get his respect. Most of the time it is up to us women to start an effort in order to save our love, keep the fire burning, keep the passion alive and ultimately keep HIM by ourside. Many of us tried and failed, then it may be because the relationship wasn’t meant to be. If that happens, it is not our fault. Don’t blame yourself when all your effort to save your relationship goes down into the drain, unappreciated. Don’t punnish yourself for being in the failure. But think of it as a loss for him to let go of a precious love you offered.

Note that in any argument, never show it to public or people around you. I made it a must to solve any conflict behind the kids. SMSes, e-mail, in the car are the privacy available for choice. I so far had managed to keep verbal arguments at bay by texting Mr Vai while we’re taking our time away from each other. He may be in the verandah and me in the kitchen but we always manage to solve everything without shouting at each other through SMSes. It is better that way compared to talking when mad during which we tend to slip tongue and said things we don’t really mean. At least through SMSes we get the time space to let words go through our head and let the tiny brain work on better reasoning. And then, when it comes to mending heart wound always start with a touch - on his hand. It doesn’t really matter who started the fight, for all my concern we live a short life to waste time on silly and regretful fights.

However I’m big in my effort to show my affection towards my loved ones. Never was I lack of hugs and kisses, I made it seem normal to hug and kiss Mr Vai in front of his family, and kids too. It is not to show off how loving we are, but I am determined to nurture love in the family unit itself simply by showing a good example. The first time was awkward for sure. Many men find it hard to express themselves, so be strong enough to show how. But when he doesn’t show it, do not despair. Man are like walls, you can lean on it when needed but don’t expect it to embrace you and offer soothing words like a girlfriend do.

I was always afraid of relationship that I never stand a date more than 3 months. My allergy towards men was incureable that I broke much heart along the way before I meet my husband. When I met Mr Vai I however was enchanted. I knew I want to keep him forever, grow old together and I told him so. And here we are braving the fourth year together towards many years ahead. My friends think I sacrifice a lot for him, he thinks I sacrificed everything for him but yet I think there’s nothing to gain but LOVE. I’ve waited long for this relationship to happen and to be honest I am blessed to have my dream realized. He never gave me flower, not a petal, and I never hoped for it. It is a winning game, where I have to forgo common romantic imagination for a better real life deal. But he talks like a baby when he feels like it, lie down on my lap and let me listen to his pain, ease his stress. Honestly I was underloved as a child since my step mother doesn’t show much affection towards me. Mr Vai knew of that and now he showered me with love. He watch my diet, ask me about work although I know he doesn’t understand my rambling, and even occasionally baths me *blush*. When I’m in difficult situation and he have no word of comfort to offer, he simply hugs me, and let me wet him with my tears. He is protective of me and that always bring tear to my eyes. What can I say, I am just blessed and very teary too.

So BDiary, or anybody reading,
When looking for a relationship, find one that completes you as a piece. You are a partner not an arm candy. Find the one who give back. Like me maybe you’ll have to make do with the small attention he gives for an unquestionable love and loyalty he has to offer. You may get a typical unromantic husband like mine, but unromantic doesn’t mean unloving. His affection doesn’t have to be made public, just enough for you to know is fine. Find one who appreciates, and honour you as a gift from GOD. Find one who can protect you from harm. And make sure he can accept you as who you are.

If your heart is hurt, give it some time to heal. Things happen for a reason, and time will tell what reason. The next time you find a true love, you’ll feel complete. But a successful relationship needs effort to nurture so be ready to give in whenever it matters. Never expect perfection or you’ll be disappointed. If he’s a fire then be the water. Man are meant to be superior, they were engineered that way so don’t bruise their ego. But NEVER be a doormat, know when to stand for yourself and leave. And pray…may the divine power help keep the love alive till we die, and set a good example of true love to our generations. I would love to have my future grandchildren grow up to be loving, humble and caring people, and tell their own kids about the love story of their great ancestors. That will be sweet.


Till then,
XOXO

LIFE IS UNFAIR

...hmmm...aku rasa aku sik bersedia mok berbicara soal hidup, sebab aku rasa aku sik matang. tapi oleh kerana mulutku ceredit dan otak ku sikmok melupakkan isu-isu sosial di sekitar aku, biarlah aku merumput, eh, mencarut. tapi renungkanlah, ney tauk aku dah mati kelak anak aku[yes JOY that's you] pegi baca blog aku , belek achive, well it's my 2cent here, and it's true. aku sik hina anugerah tuhan, cuma highlightkan apa yang patut.


BIJAK PANDAI

~bukan memandai-mandai ye? mak bapak selalu mengompare anak sidak ngan anak orang. sidak jarang berfikir anak-anak tok banyak ngambik pureh sidak mpun. aok bena kita boleh usaha, tapi aku bukan sik pernah nanga orang yang nang jenis luguk.

'coba ko rajin dikit blaja, sak ko jadi kedak sarol ya blaja benua Gucci'

aok aku serius rasa DNA kita ada peranan juak, masa exam, aku dolok nang suka study last minute, gagah pahlawan aku turun ngan pen pensel pemadam, kak ya masa result keluar aku do OK not bad tapi aku ada kawan yang malas, homework sik polah, tido aher nanga TV, ponteng, but still excellent sebab he happen to have a bigger brain capacity, born a genius.

so there dah jadi unfair, napa brain sik sama capability, capacity? napa GIG kita lain-lain?


KACAK

~orang kacak tok bertuah, macam aku[sila pengsan disini]. aok aku nang hot gojes and fabulous. orang kacak akan madah ya anugerah Illahi, aok sik salah. tapi bagi orang yang kurang kacak atau ada tebik sine-sine, they do question their fate. mungkin akan redha, but still who wouldn't want to be pretty. aku paling gelik keteyak bila masa pageantry, sidak miss-miss akan selalu suka quote,

'beauty comes from within, it just shine through you'

ok here's the crap, kenak aku sik pernah dengar orang sik kacak, orang obese or just lame looser madah quote ya? unless la kita mok mujuk dirikmpun, sak sik ngempas dirik menyalahkan takdir.


KAYA RAYA

~ok, biasanya la...orang kacak tok akan ditakdirkan kaya, yalah orang kaya ney mok kawen orang meskin kan? so pureh la juak. orang kaya tok dah kaya makin kaya la kak ya. anak-anak sidak akan born with golden spoon jammed on their bratty mouth. and the poor strugles, so unfair.

GOOD VS EVIL
~orang baik selalu malang, enuf said

ok this is my new quote, hidup ini umpama roda. tapi mun tayar pancet giney lah? lalu la kita di dibah sik nait-nait. adoehhhh

LAW OF THE GARBAGE TRUCK

One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport.

We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us.

My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us.

He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment.

As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you. Don't take it personally.

Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day.
Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets,

so ... Love the people who treat you right.

Pray for the ones who don't.

Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it!

Have a blessed, garbage-free day!

ODDS OF WINNING A LOTTERY

LIFE IS A GAMBLE - who came up with that one?

If there is an establishment able to cure lottery addiction I'd certainly drag Mr Vai through the door. True, like many men out there my Mr Vai can't seem to have enough of attempt buying with the hope of winning the 4D Magnum, countless TOTO and the forever 'so close to hit' CASHSWEEP. While I don't understand the 'permutation' concept, he is always well versed on the terms and concepts.

Yes he's overseas now, but that doesn't stop him from buying in any sense if he wants to. He got his friend on-call with debit account to my knowledge and annoyance. And there's online gaming. This is when technology does the dirty deed. But I'm glad anyhow, he IS slowing down on betting games. Guess all the money down the drain isn't as much an investment he once sees it as. Never winning can dampen any player's spirit 'eh?

Back to the topic, what is the ODD of ever winning lottery? After doing my 2 hours research on the net I wouldn't want to dish out exact figure because I thought the numbers are really made-up most of the time, but take the figures as nearly correct. However after 2 grueling hours enslaving my eyeballs in front of the pc, I think buying big or buying small doesn't make the whole investment its worth. If you are cursed to always have a black cat somewhere around your universe or your line where you are queing is always slower, chances of winning will be very LOW. Yeah...luck plays MAJOR role in winning.

Speaking of odds;

Mega TOTO 6/52 may well be said at 1:20,358,520

TOTO Jackpot 6/49 in another hand is 1:13,983,816

And the craziest mind-bogging part will be 4D
- to have all possible numbers between 0000 to 9999 you will have to spend RM10K. That is to win FIRST prize down to consolations. Is this a mega-permutation?


Oh My God!!! Why did I do that research? Now Mr Vai will think RM10K is worth investing. Blame the www again! I can't resist it. My mom is more of an addict than my dad.

And how do we live with all our extra spending every 3 draws a week plus 2 or 3 random special draws? How do we allow complaining on food price hike-up and turn a blind eye to our vast 'investment'? Is our car number really lucky? Is there really a trend in numbers that wins?

OK or forgive me on that bad luck remark just now, is it possible karma will interfere in such way that a world-beaten fellow usually wins the dough? How about the first time punters? Ever, I heard a first-timer who bought RM5 of 6D received a sum of RM500,00. How unfair is that?

Now I believe I made the point. It doesn't matter how much tou buy, it is how lucky you are. Unless of course, if you are a statistics freak who believes in probabilities. And unless if you happen to be dreaming of Choy Sun Doa or your right palm itches then it is wise to consider investing!

Seriously... Can I annoy you more?

-written by a disturbed mind-

Datuk Dr. Fadilah Kamsah

My dear friends
Let us share what Datuk Dr. Fadilah Kamsah used to say;


' Ada orang datang ke pejabat dengan perasaan penuh gembira & ceria, ada datang dengan perasaan 'biasa' dan ada datang dengan perasaan serba tak kena '.. Ingat lah, sesiapa yang datang hanya dengan perasaan 'biasa' saja, hasilnya adalah 'biasa' saja, sesiapa yang datang dengan ceria, hasilnya akan jadi lebih daripada biasa ataupun luar biasa. Bekerja la dengan ceria agar menghasilkan produktiviti yang luar biasa yang akan menggembirakan orang di sekeliling kita. Semoga hasil itu akan mendapat keberkatan insyallah... '

Jadi renungi lah :-

1. Ada antara kita datang ke pejabat hanya memenuhi tanggung jawab
'DATANG BEKERJA' tapi hampeh, hasilnya macam kita 'TAK DATANG' kerja

2. Ada kala kita rasa kita BUSY giler , rupanya kita hanya 'KELAM KABUT'.

3. Adakala kita rasa kita PERIHATIN' , tapi rupanya kita BUSY BODY

4. Adakala kita rasa kita OPENMINDED and OUTSPOKEN tapi rupanya kita KURANG PENG'AJAR'AN.

5. Adakala kita rasa kita berpemikiran KRITIS rupanya kita hanya lebih kepada KRITIK yang mencipta KRISIS .

6. Adakala kita rasa kita ingin menjadi LEBIH MESRA tapi rupanya kita di lihat lebih MENGADA

7. Adakala kita suka bertanya 'KENAPA DIA NI MCM TAKDE KEJE' ,
adalah lebih baik kita tanya 'APA LAGI KEJE YANG AKU BOLEH BUAT'

Pejam mata dan renung lah diri, kalau kita perlu melakukan ANJAKAN PARADIGMA, maka lakukanlah.. .Segera, tapi manusia tetap manusia..sukar untuk berubah kerana kita selalu beranggapan kita lebih baik...adakah dengan merasakan itu kita sememangnya terbaik?

Maka untuk itu , mari kita mula senyum, ceria, mesra sesama kita dan tingkat kerjasama dalam kerja, tak rugi kita semai rasa 'kekeluargaan' dalam tugasan..kalau kita kurang kerja, cari la kerja membantu teman-teman yang lain.

Tak dapat gaji lebih pun tak apa sebab pahala dapat..kita draw kat akhirat nanti...tapi kalau kita asyik dengki mendengki..nasib la sebab dah ditentukan jalan yang sukar itu yang kita pilih..Renungi lah, berapa orang kawan kita dan berapa orang lawan kita, nescaya itu la kayu pengukur diri yang sebaiknya...


'mengkritik tidak bererti menentang,
menyetujui tidak semestinya menyokong,
menegur tidak bermakna membenci,
dan berbeza pendapat adalah kawan berfikir yang baik'

hehe...kan..kan...