Shalom dear people.
How is your life now? Is it good,just fine or boring? Do you greet everybody in your house good morning? Had you ever made that a practice? Have you had a fight with your partner lately you don't kiss them good night anymore? Don't you feel that your life is missing the spice it felt bland? Do you wish that even if you fight your partner would still give you a forceful peck on your cheek so you can smile? Wish he still ask your time for a romantic chat instead of hanging out with his friends or busy googling away?
When conflict comes up like it always does,there must be a reason for it to happen. We are always tempted to speak out and most of the time we speak through our heart. Emotional outburst is always intolerable to man. They don't understand why we overreact in certain issues. Women do multitasks,the same thing goes to our brain. When a problem arise,we immediately began mentally listing the cause,party involved,how big is the damage and so on.
Men go find something else to do,smoke,talk to others and seemingly untroubled by the problem.
Argument,women call it discussion while man still call it 'argument'. We want a solution they want a way out. We demand respond but they run away. And while we cry our heart out,they go call their friend and talk merrily. We expect apology,they think it is unnecessary. So now it seem like we are the one who caused the problem. We feel bad about our self for uncleverly creating a scene. Is it really our fault?
When it comes to confronting men,we do need strategy. Take time to cool down and find the right moment to come up with the issue again. If they start a cold war with us,take it easy and do it their way. I came upon a story about a couple who's had a terrible fight the night before they refuse to speak a word to each other. Instead,they write notes and put it anywhere their partner can see. So that night the husband wrote a note and put it on his wife's pillow saying,"Wake me up at 5 a.m tomorrow,I have an important meeting to attend."
When he wake up the next morning the sun is already shining brightly and the clock shows the time at 8 a.m. The husband went ballistic and was about to launch a verbal fight with his wife when he saw a neatly written note put on his wife's side on the bed reading,"Wake up dear,you have an important meeting to attend."
Men are so not up to it.